Lizzy wanted to go outside, so Matt took her out. She wanted to go on the playground -- no, she wanted to ride her bike! To the playground! Matt said, let's not get your bike out. Let's just go play. That's the last I heard -- the next thing I knew, Matt was coming inside, saying that Lizzy's little plastic three-wheeled bike, a 2-year-old gift from Grandma and Grandpa Williams, had been stolen. It appears that, as he predicted, Lizzy started riding toward the playground, then abandoned interest in the bike project and just walked across the grass. So they left the bike just behind our fence, in the common area, in full view of the playground, where they played. But while they were distracted, the bike somehow rode away... Our knee-jerk reaction was that someone flat-out swiped it, but that hasn't seemed to be a problem in this neighborhood. People have problems understanding how and when to put trash out -- our sense (and the HOA's sense) of what is appropriate in that regard is quite a bit different than what appears to the be general feeling, and I'm told it has been so for years and years by a previous resident friend -- but thieves, not really. Matt floated the theory that, well, the bike was sort of placed near a public garbage can -- perhaps it's possible that someone mistook it for trash. In the 10 to 15 minutes that it was there, at nearly dusk. I'd much rather believe that than that someone would take it. Matt and I strolled around the neighborhood looking for kids who might be playing with it right away, but whoever it was made a clean getaway.
(photo from toys r us -- no one we know. as you might have guessed.)

My favorite part of this story is that, after Matt went out to inquire as to the origins of the bike they all ended up concluding that, fine, the boys could go ahead and have it -- the boy said, "Well, it needs batteries! Do you have any batteries?" (we splurged on the model that has an ignition sound, and lights up and plays tunes as you ride along. But over the winter, the batteries died.) Apparently, if we once owned the bike, and had "thrown it away," we owed the next owners a fully-functioning model. Matt's response: "Go ask your brother for batteries." Maybe we should leave some out by the garbage can. Heh.
The important thing, to me, is that Lizzy didn't notice the bike tonight, and doesn't seem to care much. There will probably come a moment when she wants to ride, and doesn't have the bike, and might make a fuss. My bike was stolen when we lived in Schenectady, N.Y. -- one of those killer banana seat models -- when I was 7 or 8, and that really felt like a violation and a loss. It's good that she hasn't reacted that way. And, really -- I know that those kids need a toy more than Lizzy does. Granted, a bike is a nice thing to have, but she needs an extra toy like she needs a hole in her sweet, pony-tailed head.
Well, I don't think any kid needs a toy badly enough to steal one. I know the whole story about it being near the trash can, but I think that's a very flimsy excuse. It's pretty clear when something is trash and when it's not. Besides there were several tale-tail signs that they were trying to hide their sticky fingeredness. Don't get me wrong... Elizabeth has the same "issues" with toy consumption and if we came across children who really needed toys I would encourage her to share. Heck, under a lot of conditions, I'd go ahead and buy the kids some new toys of their own just because. But taking things that don't belong to you and hiding behind the "it was in the garbage" story doesn't fly with me. When the people stole bottled water and diapers from the local stores in New Orleans after Katrina... I was willing to suppress my overwhelming distaste for Situation Ethics because that was a "situation" that was just beyond extraordinary. But toys??? No I think I would have demanded the bike back on principle and I would have asked for my license plate, too. Now if you didn't demand the bike back because you were afraid of retribution (as in having your car keyed or your tires slashed) I would completely understand that... Remember I lived in Jersey City for 15 years and I have a strong distaste for certain kinds of people for a reason (and I'm NOT talking about any specific ethic group or racial group or immigration status here... I'm talking about folks who just have a complete and total lack of respect for their neighbors and live like animals and should be treated like animals but our society is too kind hearted to treat them in the manor that they deserve. Heck, we're so "multi-cultural" we're afraid to even teach them basic manners because it might make us look like we're not open minded enough.)
ReplyDeleteEven if Lizzy doesn't miss the bike, I'm sure the whole episode had a disheartening effect.
ReplyDeleteKate, you are astonishingly generous and kind and "not seeking your own right" (o whatever the adjective would be from that I Corinthians 13 verse). I am impressed.
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